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ADD Related Focus Goals Personal Growth Self-Esteem

Isolation Sucks! Are You Feeling Non-Productive?

Isolation Sucks! Are You Feeling Non-Productive? Isolation is but one of the common challenges for people living with ADD/ADHD. This challenge can be set off by any number of situations that may happen in the course of our lives.

Have you ever found yourself feeling so completely set apart and isolated you get stuck? This feeling usually takes on the form of low energy, a lack of enthusiasm and crankiness, which in time expands and becomes negative self-talk.

Isolation is so subtle to me. We are working diligently-so much so that we must be alone in order to get the job done. Perhaps we’ve hit a roadblock on our way to completing a project. For me, it could be holding onto an article for fear that it’s not perfect. When any one of these setbacks occurs, we may find ourselves moving away from interaction with the very people who can actually help us breakthrough where we are “stuck.”

Challenges, setbacks and even accomplishments can throw us off. Stress is a contributing factor. Think back over this past week. Have you ever heard yourself saying, “I need to be alone to think (fill in the blank) this out.” Or perhaps you’re heading for the finish line, after days of hard work, only to have your client tell you they’ve decided to go with another company. Or it can be as simple as going to the supermarket to get your favorite ice cream to find they no longer carry it.

To get very personal, I’ve been working with technical people to improve and update my site. I’ve installed a new email system that is efficient and can handle multiple tasks. It all sounds great, right? On the other hand, as eager as I am to learn the system, I have been stymied by its complexities. I can hardly get anything started, let alone completed. I feel myself on the edge of being overwhelmed. I’m lucky enough to be working with technical people across the country… yet, my hyperactive ADD brain has already worked out all the details! I’m ready to move on to the next thing, but the real-time learning process is taking so much longer. The stress builds as I get deeper and deeper into getting this phase completed. Over time, I realize I’ve cut myself off from those around me. Whammo!

Can you relate?

ISOLATION SUCKS! always gets a rise whether I say it or whenever I make a presentation. The response is usually laughter. We all relate when a comedian says something that is so obvious we have to laugh.

Now we have a dilemma. If you know this happens given certain circumstances, what do you do to anticipate or get out of those situations?

Shifting your mood is the most essential element. Let me offer three steps that you might want to try out for yourself.

Network of Support: Develop a network of support. If you ever find yourself in the “ISOLATION SUCKS mode”, reach out to your friends, relatives, me: people who can be honest and caring with you. I call in my Network of Support-those people who can depend on me and vice versa to remind me I am not alone. You’ll want to avoid those people who unconsciously criticize you. If no one in your network is around, go for a walk just to be around other people. We all need help from time to time. This is normal and necessary. If you don’t have a network of support, you can learn to put one together; I can help you with skill-building techniques. Working through isolation is very important for your success as a person living with ADD.

Trust: Trust is one of the key virtues needed to be understood and experienced to live a full and productive life with or without ADD. For your network to work effectively, it must be made up of people you can trust. Once realized and once coached about trust, we have a foundation for building substantial relationships in our lives, work and family.

Acceptance: Sometimes we all have what I call “take to the sheets days.” It’s allowed. I recommend you accept that you feel cut off from what’s going on around you. Accept that is where you are right now. Breathe it in. It will pass. Remember you are not alone and today is just one of those days for you to replenish yourself. With the help of your network and the skills you are developing around trust and acceptance, you can work through isolation.

You can develop an additional network of support by reaching out to those people who genuinely are concerned for you and care for you. Isolation lessens when you are supported by a community of like-minded people living with ADD. I firmly believe that the more awareness we all have about ADD, the more we grow.

You are better today knowing you have ADD.

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ADD Related Time Management

How to Manage Your Time – No Matter What!

How to Manage Your Time - No Matter What!The Universal Law of Time

Time is one of the key concerns for us especially in this Decade of Distraction. In fact, the two most important concerns for all people are freedom and time.

I like to keep things simple. Here is something to ponder – The Universal Law of Time. If you think about this and use it, you cannot help but be on time. It does entail reflection before implementation which leads to action and with practice being on time. Time is not about seconds, minutes, hours, years, etc. The ability to be on time is dependent upon what matters most to you!

We find ourselves detained, late, and missing from action and repeat offenders of lost time. “I keep missing my appointments.” “What do I need to do?” “My wife has given up on me.” “What’s wrong with me?” “I just bought a fabulous watch.” “Where’s my watch?”

Still, we’re never late for the things that make us feel. What matters most gets us to our destination on time: no matter what! Time is measured by our concerns at the moment. Ask yourself, what matters most. Then show up!

Sometimes we just don’t know what matters most to us. How many times have you had so many things to get done, you just don’t know where to begin? How many times have you procrastinated?

If we are in the area of business, perhaps you have three clients looking for answers immediately. In addition to that, you must get your quarterlies to your accountant to taxes. Not only that on a personal note, you need to pick up something special for the person your most close to and you need also to make sure your son is picked up from school. Contacting admissions will acquaint you further with how a Classical School works.

You know first and foremost, no matter what, you will be there on time for your son or you will make sure someone you trust without a doubt will be there to pick him up. Wouldn’t you say that this is what matters most? Of course you do.

To determine what matters most;

  1. Make a list of all the things you must get completed in the day
  2. Choose no more than six and on a scale from one to six, estimate the amount of time needed to get each completed.
  3. Mark them in your calendar.
  4. Take the hardest one first. Do you ever notice how the hardest is last which seems to be put off to tomorrow? By taking the hardest and completing, you will most likely have momentum to complete the others.
  5. Set a time to speak with your emergencies each day. Excuse yourself by explaining their problem entails special consideration.
  6. Pick a time each day to answer emails.

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ADD Related Business Related Focus Goals

The Universal Law of Expansion For ADD Success – Thoughts Have Power

The Universal Law of Expansion For ADD Success - Thoughts Have PowerI’ve isolated 12 Universal Laws for ADD Success. In this article, we are going to explore the Universal Law of Expansion.

If thoughts have power, why would anyone focus on what’s not working and what’s wrong? If you asked a friend what they think they need to have a happy relationship, make more money, overcome procrastination, they know most of the time what’s wrong and how to fix it; more effort, more time, more energy. Haven’t you had the experience of working on the problems hoping to get them fixed so once it’s fixed you can be successful? Where are we really focused – on what’s wrong.

The Universal Law of Expansion states that wherever your attention is focused it will expand. Expand? Here’s another way of saying the same thing. What you pay attention to grows! Our thoughts create our universe thus the universe listens to what you are thinking, saying or acting whether consciously or unconsciously. “Oh, they want more wrong!” OK. Let’s give it to them.” To succeed, we need to focus on what’s right! We need to understand, practice and embrace this essential first universal law to bring about what we desire. When we do surprisingly an abundance of right will show up when you least expect it.

Success is personal and unique to you. Success is whatever you say it is for you.Consider the following:

“Success is achieved by developing our strengths not eliminating our weaknesses.”

Marilyn Van Savant – Billed as the person with the highest IQ (228) ever recorded.

I ask clients what do they think they are good at, what are their strengths. The majority can’t think of any. Over time we discover an abundance of them but we find ourselves immersed in what’s not working.

Success and focus follow what you are good at; your strengths based upon your natural innate talents. We’ll explore this at length in coming articles but for now here is the short hand version for you to consider.

Talents and strengths energize and have the power to increase your sense of well-being. They add to the quality of your life.

Challenges and/or weaknesses drain you. They sap your energy.

How do I find my talents and strengths? Ask what is it that I do that when I am actively involved in it, I am completely absorbed. What is it that comes easily?

Practice the Universal Law of Expansion. Get in the habit of acknowledging those parts of your life that work. It is in the habit of remembering and noting these moments in your life that success and accomplishment will mature and stick.

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ADD Related Goals Personal Growth Productivity

Positive Effects of ADD

Positive Effects of ADDI see the gift of ADD/ADHD all around us. It shows up in so many ways. We are always surprised to find out that extremely successful people in all walks of life we suspect have ADD/ADHD or have stated that they do. We learn a great deal from this group but all we need do is to look inside to our own character.

ADD/ADHD people can teach others about ethics and humility. Many of them know what it is like to be teased, and they know how much it hurts. This makes them display a much stronger moral character.

ADD/ADHD persons are the ones that you want to have involved in sports, choir, and band. It is because they are energetic, smart, resourceful, charismatic, creative and also resilient! These are the very same qualities that it takes in life to be a successful professional in any field.

Some Positive Attributes ADD/ADHD People

  • Creative Extremely Intelligent Adaptable
  • Resourceful High Energy Level Visionaries
  • Humble Enthusiastic Humorous
  • Insightful Visual Trusting
  • Open-minded Compassionate Artistic
  • Passionate Sensitive Verbally Advanced
  • Mechanically Inclined Hardworking Athletic
  • Imaginative Charismatic Fun-loving
  • Optimistic Outgoing Personable
  • Athletic Resourceful Smart

Some Famous (Suspected) ADD/ADHD People

  • Thomas Edison
  • Albert Einstein
  • Alexander Graham Bell
  • Leonardo DaVinci
  • Mozart Socrates
  • Beethoven
  • Wright Brothers
  • John F. Kennedy
  • Ernest Hemmingway
  • Pablo Picasso
  • Salvador Dali
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Steven Spielberg
  • Whoopi Goldberg
  • Bill Cosby
  • Michael Jordan
  • Nolan Ryan
  • Dustin Hoffman
  • Prince Charles

Open your mind and open your eyes to the beauty of the ADD/ADHD person.

Who else do you suspect might have ADD/ADHD?

I want to make a special Acknowledgement to David Giwerc, Founder – http://www.ADDCA.com for their help.

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ADD Related Medical

How to Find an ADD Doctor

How to Find an ADD DoctorToday was interesting! I received a call from a woman looking for a psychiatrist. “Hi, I need a psychiatrist.” I think I’m in a Woody Allen movie. Great opening line. Right? She told me she thought she had ADD; was looking to be diagnosed. Could I recommend someone?

There is a myth that doctors whether primary care or psychiatrists can diagnose Adult ADD. Did you know up until 15 years ago, adults with ADD were considered to be more depressed that inattentive? It was believed adults outgrew ADD. Rather than go into specific detail, it was related to the neurotransmitters of the brain.

If you or someone you know believes they have ADD seeking out a doctor is a smart move. What questions could you ask? Here are several to consider while interviewing a doctor – yes, interviewing. This is your body.

Ask for Referrals:

  1. Who do you know that has ADD that has been diagnosed and are happy with the results?
  2. Contact ADD organizations such as ADDA, CHADD, ADD Coaching Group, MAADD and ask for referrals.
  3. Contact me and I’ll send you a FREE ADD Resource Guide at my Learning Annex class which gives information that can assist you.

Once you find a doctor, psychiatrist, psychopharmacologist, etc. ask simple, straightforward questions:

  1. Have they had specific education and/or training related to ADD/ADHD?
  2. What percentage of their practice does the doctor work with people living with ADD? Is this new part of their practice due to the amount of publicity in the press? For how long?
  3. Does he understand the co-morbid nature of ADD? Co-morbidity means different types of medication may be given to the client which works on different parts of the brain?
  4. Is he prone to prescribe medication too quickly?
  5. What is their success rate with people living with ADD?
  6. What is the period of time that they suggest the medication will be used to determine the effectiveness in dealing with symptoms of ADD?
  7. Does he recommend natural alternatives in addition to medication or natural alternatives without medication?
  8. Does he suggest working with an ADD coach to help the client through the changes associated with effective medication?
  9. What is his network of support that you can tap into?
  10. Do you feel comfortable knowing and feeling you are in the hands of someone who appreciates the importance of proper diagnosis?

Proper diagnosis is a serious matter. I recommend you reach out to friends and of course please contact me. I have resources at all levels to assist you.

As I always say, your strongest allies are here as you develop an additional network of support right for you and for others.

I’m a firm believer: the more awareness we all have about ADD, the more we grow. You are better today knowing you have ADD.

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ADD Related Business Related Personal Growth

An Incredible Time to Have ADD – The Decade of Distraction

An Incredible Time to Have ADD – The Decade of Distraction

An Incredible Time to Have ADD - The Decade of DistractionWe are living in the “Decade of Distraction.” For people living with ADD/ADHD, this is an opportunity to use ADD/ADHD to its fullest advantage. Information is heaped upon us in massive amounts from multiple sources. Technology changes at a rapid pace. 10 years ago, the internet was primarily a governmental and educational resource. Today, it is a global phenomenon. We see it in business. We can send a request for medical data to India sitting in the doctor’s office and receive an evaluation within hours. Wish to develop a website? A friend is working with a website developer in Brazil!

Throughout this as people who lean toward creativity and stimulation, learning in our own special way becomes meaningful. I’ve just begun learning how to build websites using Dreamweaver, Flash and Fireworks with an incredible web designer/developer and instructor, Richard Wood. Why? I wish to be connected in a way that developing and understanding websites from the inside out is essential to me.

For me and many others with ADD/ADHD, we have the ability to assimilate all this information easier than others, I believe, because of our attraction to stimulation. For many people living with ADD/ADHD, multitasking can be seamless. In these situations, can you see how YOUR ADD/ADHD can be an advantage? It has been noted that in the next 15 years, to succeed, one needs to be able to think like a person living with ADD/ADHD.

Where we may thrive in multiple areas of interests and stimulation, people without ADD/ADHD can experience frustration and confusion. They may experience a cacophony of noise. This is a perfect example of how you might take advantage of ADD/ADHD and WIN with ADD/ADHD.

So I leave you with this thought and challenge. Take note of what makes you different and unique. These differences may be your greatest attribute as the Decade of Distraction is upon us.

Learn to appreciate your specific brain wiring. ADD/ADHD can be a gift that requires development of a new skill set that will enhance your abilities. This is worth paying attention to!

I’m a firm believer, the more awareness we all have about ADD/ADHD the more we grow. You are better today by knowing you have ADD/ADHD. As you read my articles I hope you walk away with a new perspective on Adult ADD/ADHD and perhaps a new perspective on yourself.

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