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One Practice to Overcome Procrastination What If There Were No What If’s

Some “What if’s” of Procrastination

We all know about the “what if’s.”

  • I have enough time to get this done.
  • Tomorrow is a better time.
  • What will I do, say, be, look like, etc.
  • What if I’m not doing the right thing?
  • What if it doesn’t happen – then what?
  • Feel free to fill in your own what ifs.

What if’s hold us back from moving forward and getting into action to accomplish what we say we want – to accomplish our goals.  The “what ifs’” are one of the primary reasons we may find ourselves procrastinating even though we don’t know why.

First, remember to be kind to yourself.  Why?  You are not procrastinating on purpose.  Understand that in so many cases procrastination is happening to you.  It is happening to you on an unconscious level.  It’s only after the fact that you can realize – I can’t get started.  You are left to suffer, get frustrated and wonder why.  When this happens it makes complete sense to do something that is more pleasurable.  Wouldn’t you rather be doing something that is not boring?

When this happens you can find yourself in a negative self-talk loop. There are times you simply cannot do anything. Under stress your brain chemistry is imbalanced.  Bam! Brain freeze!

Procrastination is the result of avoidance, and both the result of and driver of anxietyAnxiety associated with procrastination continues to fester and grows over time. Anxiety can become so uncomfortable that we seek relief for it, hoping there is some better way to tolerate things left undone. If you are fighting against this condition, check out this new cbd oil to deal with your anxiety.

“People have a tendency to remain the same until they can isolate and recognize what it is they want to change”.

It’s the unconscious part that we must practice to identify by becoming aware of the various and specific situations we encounter that has procrastination getting in our way.  This takes a new set of skills for looking and listening and, in short, observing our behavior without any criticism. We need to learn the skill of debating and questioning. Our goal is the eventual state with humility and dignity – “There it is again.  What’s going on? Where did that come from?  OK! Let’s move on. Who can I call who can help me through this? What could I be doing differently?”

Frank Coppola from Get Into Action – 8 Simple Steps to Overcome Procrastination

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ADD Related Coaching

7 Major Concerns For People Living With ADD – ADHD

7 Major Concerns For People Living With ADD - ADHD, Frank Coppola, new yorkI have a saying, “The More You Know The More You Grow.” I believe that a person living with ADD’s major issue is not knowing they have ADD. When they are properly diagnosed, there is a tremendous sense of relief – one that produces alternate moods of joy and upset. At this point we need more than just good information; we need a “re-education.”  We literally need to learn how to live in a non-ADD friendly world knowing we have ADD.

So the key to our personal and professional growth is learning how to learn, learning and then putting into action what we’ve learned. This re-education or better still transformation of our point of view about ADD is critical to our success.  This is one of the primary reasons to associate yourself with positive thinking people living with ADD.  By doing so it can increase the quality of your life in so many ways.   I am passionate about people understanding the enormous opportunities and possibilities of ADD. As part of the re-education process, we need to isolate those areas that time after time hinder our success.  I’ve done quite a bit of research and I’ve found that there are, with slight variations, seven challenges consistent for people living with ADD.

I believe this is so for people with or without ADD as well but clearly, its prominence is felt with ADDer’s.  Many of the other ADD challenges fall under these categories as well. They are:

  1. Procrastination
  2. Organization
  3. Time Management
  4. Money
  5. Relationship
  6. Career/Work
  7. Focus

Digging deeper, I’ve found the underlying issue is a lack of self-esteem due to these challenges over one’s entire life. Is this so for you? With re-education and ADD coaching transformation is possible.  The benefits of this transformation are an enormous increase in self-esteem and self-worth.  The result is improved health and well-being.  Not bad right? Would you like more information on succeeding personally and professionally? Contact me. 

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ADD Related Coaching

The Wheel of Renewal – Your Unique Journey to Passion and Success

The Wheel of Renewal - Your Unique Journey to Passion and SuccessI often use the analogy of archeology at times while coaching. I’ve created The Wheel of Renewal, which emphasizes the idea of archeology. Imagine you’re in your own Indiana Jones movie called Indiana Jones and The Wheel of Renewal – Journey to Passion. Though the wheel is naturally a circle, the journey is not like “clock work” but rather a flexible process. We start where we are. We may find ourselves at various times at different parts of our lives; reflecting back, learning how to stay present as well as looking towards our future possibilities.

Part of anyone’s growth is to look back to see where they’ve been. Our journey begins by educating ourselves through discovery and exploration. There may be a tendency to blame ourselves for what we could have done or maybe even blaming others. We can learn a new way of seeing the world by ADDing Perspective. I liken this to watching a movie or reading a book. There is no need for judgment because we come to understand that our ADD during those times could have hindered our perception of life. We also come to realize there is power in looking back as everything (ones’ history, culture, and life); everything ever experienced “informs” us. Each event plays a critical part bringing us to where we are right now! Through acceptance, we build a bridge to possibilities in the future.

I emphasize one cannot grow the future while stuck in the past. Simultaneously, once we’ve had a chance to discover and explore, there is a tendency with clients to become energized. It is during this phase, we explore our natural talents. As one develops the talent muscle with practice they invariably become strengths. Have you ever heard someone remark about a girl who can sing on pitch at 5 years old? What do we say? “She has talent. She should really have lessons.” Over time and with practice her singing may become an awesome strength. Focused talents always lead to strengths. Strengths lead to passion. Whether one follows their passion is another story.

We work on these strengths if you are comfortable with them and explore how to use your ADD/ADHD to your competitive advantage. It is not unusual for clients to feel empowered and renewed with a new found purpose to potentially reinvent and/or reconstruct your current life situation/s. Once this is purpose is embraced, passion may arise. Clients take actions according to their vision and goals. At this point, we may find ourselves back to educating ourselves once again. Thus, The Wheel of Renewal may begin again. I look forward to exploring this with you. Contact me anytime.

 

 

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ADD Related Coaching

What Is Coaching And Why Is It So Important?

What Is Coaching And Why Is It So Important?There has been a great deal of talk about coaching. Not only that but we hear about so many kinds of coaches – business coach, life coach (such a funny term for me), even an ADD coach, sports coach and so many more. There are cooking coaches, greening coaches, finance coaches, and many, many more. I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a James Bond coach. James Bond wannabe, “My name is Bond, James Bond. I live at Kinsingdale Square.” Cut! James Bond Coach, very supportive, “That was very good but just – my name is Bond, James Bond.”

Another term you could use in place of a coach is a mentor. A mentor is a person who sees talent that could use nurturing. They take you into their lives and help you grow beyond wherever you may feel limited. If you do the work, listen intently and enthusiastically and apply mentor’s guidance you just may achieve success.

We all are looking for excellence in our lives. Coaching can help you achieve excellence. This is why it is so important to have a coach. So let’s make this as simple as possible – coaches help you see what you cannot see. The art of coaching is about an outside observer giving you tips and techniques for improving your game. But just suppose we had to play a different kind of game, the success game?

An example is a runner’s concerns that may include various methods performance enhancement so that ultimately they can maximize their enjoyment of the experience of running. The runner strives to enhance what makes him most effective and strives to learn what areas of his running could improve. He does this by enlisting the aid of a coach.

People who want to get better at what they do in any walk of life – family, work, relationships, outside interests – work to develop their talents and turn them into strengths. One way to do this is to hire a dedicated coach who has the ability to observe from a distance, nurture, improve and enhance performance. A coach will watch you practice and make suggestions. Perhaps the runner should have less movement in his arms. Perhaps by moving several degrees forward, the runner can increase their speed. With each suggestion, the coach empowers the runner to take full advantage of a new and unique way of running specific to them.

Now if you are a person living with ADD who strives to succeed then working with an ADD Coach is of utmost importance. An expert ADD Coach can educate, nurture, improve and enhance your performance by focusing on what is unique to you. Some would call this your “unique brain wiring.” Though people living with ADD share behaviors, signs or symptoms, their approach to dealing with or being affected by them, is as unique as each of our fingerprints. An ADD Coach can help you isolate your strengths

Regardless of your uniqueness, you can learn how to maximize your strengths to reach your goals and dreams. When you work with a coach, you will most likely reach them faster than by yourself.

Here’s a little bit of coaching, one of the key points in reaching your goals and dreams is to be massively specific. In another article, we will discuss this at length along with techniques for “drilling down to specificity.”

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Coaching Self-Esteem

Quieting The Little Voice

I’ve been asked several times by subscribers and my fantastic clients how to quiet the little voice – you know, the negative self-talk that will have you stay small. I wanted to send this along this updated version as an inspiration for you to succeed in 2012. 

Here goes.

You’re moving along.  Everything is humming.  Suddenly out of nowhere you stop.  You’re hearing those limiting voices telling you this is a waste of time.  Now you’re more concerned about what is not working in your life?  You’re a guy in a diner spending time complaining about this and that?  The complaining is easier than working as best you can to get the work done – no matter what? So now what?

Think bigger than those limiting voices would have you believe.  Create a new story about who you are and what you want.  In the words of Rocky, “Go for it.”

Shifting your thinking away from problems to successes creates opportunities in your personal and professional life.  When we’re in a success zone, we just feel healthier.

Here’s a simple and powerful exercise that can transform you from being a victim to leader. Just try it for a week:

1. Make a decision to ignore the temptation to say or do anything negative.  This includes criticism, judgment, make wrong or whatever to those people around you including YOURSELF! 

2. If you realize you are saying or doing anything negative shift it to something positive. I.e., “Can you believe how the sales person spoke to me?  To “Sometimes people have rough days, I know what that’s all about.”

3. Focus on your successes.  During your day write down five successes, accomplishments, wins as well as acknowledgements daily.

4. If you’re lacking motivation, ask yourself, who can I serve today?  Who can I inspire to go beyond where they believe they are stuck?

5. Do your best to eliminate your tendency towards negative self-talk.  If you hear those voices, tell them to go away.  Find a safe place to scream, “”Get away!”  I don’t recommend you do this when you’re in a meeting.  You can scream silently. If you forget to do the exercise one day, let it go and start again. If you’re able to do it one day; you’ve hit a homerun.  If you forget to do it at all and remember you could have; celebrate remembering you weren’t able to do this for whatever the reason – then start again. You can’t change what you don’t know you want to change.  Yeah! You’re a winner.

 

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Discover Your ADD-ADHD Competitive Advantages

So many of my new clients say they are completely puzzled about how ADD/ADHD can be an advantage. After struggling with issues such as lack of focus, distraction, procrastination, time management, and many others, it feels like science fiction to them. But it can be true for every person living with ADD/ADHD, and I’m going to show you how based upon the principles I’ve developed in Say Yes to ADD/ADHD! – 10 Ways to Benefit with ADD/ADHD. The first principle, Acceptance, is a good place to begin.

Accept that you were born with ADD/ADHD just as you were born with a different blood type than many other people. ADD/ADHD is an essential part of who you are: parts that can ADD/ADHD to the quality of your life. Perhaps your biggest obstacle until now has been not realizing you even had ADD/ADHD. Realizing it NOW can be your greatest opportunity. This is not a character flaw, nor are you broken or missing some integral piece that, once found, could miraculously "fix" you. Many times, emotional, social or cultural issues can be confused with the symptoms of ADD/ADHD. Accept that your specific way of seeing the world is different from the viewpoint of others. You are unique. That’s the good news!

Living in the Age of Distraction

For those of you who thrive on an abundance of information, your ADD/ADHD can benefit you as well as those around you. We live in the multimedia "Age of Distraction." Information comes at us in incredible amounts and at incredible speed. Our ADD/ADHD brains strive not to be bored; we are always looking for what is interesting and stimulating. This is a perfect example of how you can use ADD/ADHD to your competitive advantage: instead of being distracted, you have an asset for processing information seamlessly!

Discover Your ADD/ADHD Competitive Advantages

  1. Make a list of situations that are easy or natural for you– so easy that they don’t seem very important. For me, I love problem solving. I problem solve in business, family, music writing, working with clients. I’ve been doing this all my life. It’s what I naturally gravitate towards. You’ll find your talent lies in what comes easiest.
  2. Record the details of the situation and how what comes easily impacts your activities and the quality of your life and the lives of those around you.
  3. Patterns of positive, inspiring moments that make you feel good about yourself and your accomplishments will start to come to the surface. You can learn to use and reshape these moments to your ADD/ADHD competitive advantage. That’s a promise from me to you.

Your ADD/ADHD issues may have haunted you all your days, but perhaps these issues are telling you something about how you think, move, and react to the world around you. Once you understand YOUR ADD/ADHD, you will come to realize its enormous advantages.

Consider your ADD/ADHD is showing you something that has confused you until now. Decide to become an expert of your ADD/ADHD experience. Learn to observe the world with a new set of glasses: ones with new lenses adjusted to your ADD/ADHD perspective.

When we are able to accept that we have ADD/ADHD, we put ourselves in a position to change and grow.

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