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3 Impactful Tips for Overcoming the Stress on Today’s Economy

3 Impactful Tips for Overcoming the Stress on Today's EconomyStress affects people with ADD/ADHD especially hard as our body chemistry is hindered by enzymes that literally shut us down. I’ve spoken about brain freeze in the past but in short we are physically unable to unravel our thinking during these times.

Stress is fear-based. Fear is a powerful force which holds people captured in negative paralysis thus limiting one’s possibilities. In a stressful world filled with uncertainty, a fragile economy as well as tragic consequences such as fires in California and global warming; it’s easy to see why people are in stress; particularly with the economy.

Here are 3 tips you can use to overcome the stress of the economy so you can move more fluidly in the world and focus on being productive.

  1. Turn off the media

Just as an insect is drawn to the fire or the reality that there is a tendency for people to focus misery instead of opportunity, the media has taken the point of view that we are doomed. I find this offensive and degrading to the human potentiality available in all of us. I wonder why we spend so much time on our problems as opposed to engaging in dialog that produces solutions. So turn off the talk shows and listen to your heart as the lyric says. We are bigger than the problems facing us.

  1. Gratitude

Take a moment and be grateful for what you have. At the end of the day and the beginning of each, take note of 10 things you are thankful for. Recall your past successes, natural talents, strengths and skills, relationships and personal achievements. Be rigorous. Pay strict attention to what you have accomplished in life and quiet the negative dialog that has you focused on what you don’t have. You might be surprised how much you have going for you. This alone could get you creatively motivated to take that next step towards success.

  1. Remember action reduces fear.

Action relieves depression. You can certainly become depressed and fall into a state of rumination; you know, the churning over of could’s, would’s and should’s. Once you get into motion, fear disappears. Fear comes in all sizes and shapes including public speaking and anxiety of the unknown. Everyone has fears; part of life. Even Laurence Olivier considered to be the greatest actor of all time would throw up before every stage performance. In spite of the fear, he took action. Courage is moving forward in the face of danger. So be courageous!

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Not Achieving Your Goals? Get Smart!

Not Achieving Your Goals? Get Smart!If you are not hitting the targets that you aim for-whether it is mana

ging your career or enjoying your personal life–the best way to get what you want is to use a 5-step approach with the acronym smart.

First, be specific.

This applies one of my universal laws of success: expansion. What you pay attention to will expand as you become more specific.

Write down what you want to accomplish, being as detailed as you can:

  1. Know where you are going. Start by visualizing the end result as realistically as possible.
  2. Evaluate where you are now. According to Robert Fritz, by comparing where you are starting from with where you want to be, the tension between the two will bring you closer to your desired end.

Second, measure your desired outcome.

Measuring not only gives you direction but also provides a means of evaluating your progress. Otherwise, you have no way of determining when you achieve your goal.

Third, be sure that your goal is attainable.

Do you have the resources, ability, support system, fortitude and overwhelming desire to do whatever it takes to reach your goals? Are there people who can mentor you through the process? This evaluation allows you to gain momentum and remain motivated.

Fourth, be realistic.

Your desire should correspond with what is possible. For example, your aim is to travel the world buying antique furniture, then selling it for massive profits. Unfortunately, you know zero about this business.

By setting a five-year plan, you may succeed. Begin by studying antique furniture, and then get a job with an international company in the industry. As you gain competency in buying and selling profitably, you can ask to travel as a purchaser for the firm. Eventually, your expertise may allow you to open your own business, of course for this Accounting can be a vital so getting resources to help you with this is important as well.

Can you see how setting a realistic plan can enable you to reach your goal?

Finally, realize that time equals success.

Since you cannot achieve your goals overnight, you must set a clear target for completion of your plan. By defining an ending date, you are putting the wheels of intention in motion, as well as making a commitment.

By utilizing the smart approach, you will be amazed at your success in making your goals a reality.

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Isolation Sucks! Are You Feeling Non-Productive?

Isolation Sucks! Are You Feeling Non-Productive? Isolation is but one of the common challenges for people living with ADD/ADHD. This challenge can be set off by any number of situations that may happen in the course of our lives.

Have you ever found yourself feeling so completely set apart and isolated you get stuck? This feeling usually takes on the form of low energy, a lack of enthusiasm and crankiness, which in time expands and becomes negative self-talk.

Isolation is so subtle to me. We are working diligently-so much so that we must be alone in order to get the job done. Perhaps we’ve hit a roadblock on our way to completing a project. For me, it could be holding onto an article for fear that it’s not perfect. When any one of these setbacks occurs, we may find ourselves moving away from interaction with the very people who can actually help us breakthrough where we are “stuck.”

Challenges, setbacks and even accomplishments can throw us off. Stress is a contributing factor. Think back over this past week. Have you ever heard yourself saying, “I need to be alone to think (fill in the blank) this out.” Or perhaps you’re heading for the finish line, after days of hard work, only to have your client tell you they’ve decided to go with another company. Or it can be as simple as going to the supermarket to get your favorite ice cream to find they no longer carry it.

To get very personal, I’ve been working with technical people to improve and update my site. I’ve installed a new email system that is efficient and can handle multiple tasks. It all sounds great, right? On the other hand, as eager as I am to learn the system, I have been stymied by its complexities. I can hardly get anything started, let alone completed. I feel myself on the edge of being overwhelmed. I’m lucky enough to be working with technical people across the country… yet, my hyperactive ADD brain has already worked out all the details! I’m ready to move on to the next thing, but the real-time learning process is taking so much longer. The stress builds as I get deeper and deeper into getting this phase completed. Over time, I realize I’ve cut myself off from those around me. Whammo!

Can you relate?

ISOLATION SUCKS! always gets a rise whether I say it or whenever I make a presentation. The response is usually laughter. We all relate when a comedian says something that is so obvious we have to laugh.

Now we have a dilemma. If you know this happens given certain circumstances, what do you do to anticipate or get out of those situations?

Shifting your mood is the most essential element. Let me offer three steps that you might want to try out for yourself.

Network of Support: Develop a network of support. If you ever find yourself in the “ISOLATION SUCKS mode”, reach out to your friends, relatives, me: people who can be honest and caring with you. I call in my Network of Support-those people who can depend on me and vice versa to remind me I am not alone. You’ll want to avoid those people who unconsciously criticize you. If no one in your network is around, go for a walk just to be around other people. We all need help from time to time. This is normal and necessary. If you don’t have a network of support, you can learn to put one together; I can help you with skill-building techniques. Working through isolation is very important for your success as a person living with ADD.

Trust: Trust is one of the key virtues needed to be understood and experienced to live a full and productive life with or without ADD. For your network to work effectively, it must be made up of people you can trust. Once realized and once coached about trust, we have a foundation for building substantial relationships in our lives, work and family.

Acceptance: Sometimes we all have what I call “take to the sheets days.” It’s allowed. I recommend you accept that you feel cut off from what’s going on around you. Accept that is where you are right now. Breathe it in. It will pass. Remember you are not alone and today is just one of those days for you to replenish yourself. With the help of your network and the skills you are developing around trust and acceptance, you can work through isolation.

You can develop an additional network of support by reaching out to those people who genuinely are concerned for you and care for you. Isolation lessens when you are supported by a community of like-minded people living with ADD. I firmly believe that the more awareness we all have about ADD, the more we grow.

You are better today knowing you have ADD.

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The Universal Law of Expansion For ADD Success – Thoughts Have Power

The Universal Law of Expansion For ADD Success - Thoughts Have PowerI’ve isolated 12 Universal Laws for ADD Success. In this article, we are going to explore the Universal Law of Expansion.

If thoughts have power, why would anyone focus on what’s not working and what’s wrong? If you asked a friend what they think they need to have a happy relationship, make more money, overcome procrastination, they know most of the time what’s wrong and how to fix it; more effort, more time, more energy. Haven’t you had the experience of working on the problems hoping to get them fixed so once it’s fixed you can be successful? Where are we really focused – on what’s wrong.

The Universal Law of Expansion states that wherever your attention is focused it will expand. Expand? Here’s another way of saying the same thing. What you pay attention to grows! Our thoughts create our universe thus the universe listens to what you are thinking, saying or acting whether consciously or unconsciously. “Oh, they want more wrong!” OK. Let’s give it to them.” To succeed, we need to focus on what’s right! We need to understand, practice and embrace this essential first universal law to bring about what we desire. When we do surprisingly an abundance of right will show up when you least expect it.

Success is personal and unique to you. Success is whatever you say it is for you.Consider the following:

“Success is achieved by developing our strengths not eliminating our weaknesses.”

Marilyn Van Savant – Billed as the person with the highest IQ (228) ever recorded.

I ask clients what do they think they are good at, what are their strengths. The majority can’t think of any. Over time we discover an abundance of them but we find ourselves immersed in what’s not working.

Success and focus follow what you are good at; your strengths based upon your natural innate talents. We’ll explore this at length in coming articles but for now here is the short hand version for you to consider.

Talents and strengths energize and have the power to increase your sense of well-being. They add to the quality of your life.

Challenges and/or weaknesses drain you. They sap your energy.

How do I find my talents and strengths? Ask what is it that I do that when I am actively involved in it, I am completely absorbed. What is it that comes easily?

Practice the Universal Law of Expansion. Get in the habit of acknowledging those parts of your life that work. It is in the habit of remembering and noting these moments in your life that success and accomplishment will mature and stick.

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Positive Effects of ADD

Positive Effects of ADDI see the gift of ADD/ADHD all around us. It shows up in so many ways. We are always surprised to find out that extremely successful people in all walks of life we suspect have ADD/ADHD or have stated that they do. We learn a great deal from this group but all we need do is to look inside to our own character.

ADD/ADHD people can teach others about ethics and humility. Many of them know what it is like to be teased, and they know how much it hurts. This makes them display a much stronger moral character.

ADD/ADHD persons are the ones that you want to have involved in sports, choir, and band. It is because they are energetic, smart, resourceful, charismatic, creative and also resilient! These are the very same qualities that it takes in life to be a successful professional in any field.

Some Positive Attributes ADD/ADHD People

  • Creative Extremely Intelligent Adaptable
  • Resourceful High Energy Level Visionaries
  • Humble Enthusiastic Humorous
  • Insightful Visual Trusting
  • Open-minded Compassionate Artistic
  • Passionate Sensitive Verbally Advanced
  • Mechanically Inclined Hardworking Athletic
  • Imaginative Charismatic Fun-loving
  • Optimistic Outgoing Personable
  • Athletic Resourceful Smart

Some Famous (Suspected) ADD/ADHD People

  • Thomas Edison
  • Albert Einstein
  • Alexander Graham Bell
  • Leonardo DaVinci
  • Mozart Socrates
  • Beethoven
  • Wright Brothers
  • John F. Kennedy
  • Ernest Hemmingway
  • Pablo Picasso
  • Salvador Dali
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Steven Spielberg
  • Whoopi Goldberg
  • Bill Cosby
  • Michael Jordan
  • Nolan Ryan
  • Dustin Hoffman
  • Prince Charles

Open your mind and open your eyes to the beauty of the ADD/ADHD person.

Who else do you suspect might have ADD/ADHD?

I want to make a special Acknowledgement to David Giwerc, Founder – http://www.ADDCA.com for their help.

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WHAT IS A GOAL?

First and foremost a Goal is a promise to do something in the future.  The promise is – I promise to complete such and such goal by (date.) The interesting thing about this is most people do not consider a goal a promise.  You see it’s a particular kind of promise. 

Whether you make the promise to someone else it’s a promise to yourself.  What happens when someone breaks a promise to you – you don’t feel so good about them?  Right?  If they continue to break their promises to you, you begin to not trust them.  In time you either say they’re a blowhard or worse you want nothing to do with them.

Consider all the goals you said you were going to do and never started and the goals you never completed.  Can you see why having goals in this state of limbo can have a negative effect on you?  This is a perfect opportunity for your internal negative self-talk to pop up and start beating you up. 

When you have these incompletions over time, it affects your self-esteem.  Why? You start to lose trust in yourself, accept you can’t have nothing to do with them, because you are them. 

So here is a great exercise.

Critical to these exercises is doing the work.  It’s always best to not blame yourself.  You are doing the best you can.  This is probably new information.  Make a commitment to yourself to not accuse or judge yourself.  Just do the exercise. 

List as many incompletions in your life.  This is going to help you decide what you want to take on.  What goal you want to work on over the coming weeks.  We need to clean as many as you can?  Here’s how you clean those incompletions.

FORGIVE yourself meaning, it’s OK to move forward with a new commitment to do the best you can to complete the goal.  You’re going to watch, if and when you hit the wall over the coming weeks. Let them go!  Let it go!