Is Procrastination Ruining Your Marriage?

Is Procrastination Ruining Your Marriage?Late for dinner again? Not able to make it to Bobby Jr.’s baseball game because you have to work all weekend? Have you re-scheduled date night for several weeks in a row?

Chances are if you answered yes to any of these questions you consider yourself overworked. However, it’s a safe bet to say that a large part of your overload is due more to procrastination than the actual amount of work you have to complete. Even if you end up meeting deadlines, other areas of your life suffer. One of the most crucial areas procrastination can affect is your marriage.

Not only does your spouse have to pick up the slack for responsibilities you no longer have time for, he/she will start to feel less like part of a team and more like a solo artist. This ongoing shift in the relationship can cause resentment and anger in your partner and lead to many problems.

Another issue that procrastination brings up that relates to marital problems is personal finance. By putting off bills and taxes, credit scores suffer and extra fees are paid. Even something as seemingly benign as Christmas shopping can mean major problems for procrastinators.

By leaving it until the last minute, procrastinators don’t save up to pay for gifts and are forced to pay more or make their purchases using credit cards. This has a huge impact on the procrastinator’s spouse as well and another rift is created in the marriage.

A happy marriage is built on teamwork. When one member of the team keeps missing the goals, the entire team loses. When you sign on to be someone’s spouse, you become one half of a partnership. If you are unable to successfully contribute your 50% – whether that be in terms of finances, attention or any other tangible or intangible factor – you are not holding up your end of the bargain.

Though a marriage struggling due to procrastination can be turned around, it can take a lot of work. This is mostly due to the fact that the procrastinator is not likely to admit that he/she has a problem. Instead, the absences will be blamed on an overflowing workload or simply being too busy. However, if the procrastinator can come to terms with his/her problem and restore the equality in the relationship, the marriage can be repaired.

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By Frank Coppola

My name is Frank Coppola MA, ODC, ACG and I have a passion for personal and professional coaching, with a specialization in people with ADD. I find it gratifying working with adults - parents, entrepreneurs, couples and educators - with and without ADD. I believe firmly that the only thing wrong with ADD is not knowing you have it! Once properly diagnosed and properly coached, people with ADD have unique advantages waiting to be appreciated by themselves and others.

I am an ADD Benefit’s Coach & Trainer. In a world designed by people with invisible challenges like ADD, we can sometimes feel misplaced. I love helping others understand and appreciate how their “unique brain wiring” can actually be their strongest friend and ally. We work together to uncover your talents and maximize your strengths so you can take full advantage and benefit from your ADD.