First and foremost a Goal is a promise to do something in the future. The promise is – I promise to complete such and such goal by (date.) The interesting thing about this is most people do not consider a goal a promise. You see it’s a particular kind of promise.
Whether you make the promise to someone else it’s a promise to yourself. What happens when someone breaks a promise to you – you don’t feel so good about them? Right? If they continue to break their promises to you, you begin to not trust them. In time you either say they’re a blowhard or worse you want nothing to do with them.
Consider all the goals you said you were going to do and never started and the goals you never completed. Can you see why having goals in this state of limbo can have a negative effect on you? This is a perfect opportunity for your internal negative self-talk to pop up and start beating you up.
When you have these incompletions over time, it affects your self-esteem. Why? You start to lose trust in yourself, accept you can’t have nothing to do with them, because you are them.
So here is a great exercise.
Critical to these exercises is doing the work. It’s always best to not blame yourself. You are doing the best you can. This is probably new information. Make a commitment to yourself to not accuse or judge yourself. Just do the exercise.
List as many incompletions in your life. This is going to help you decide what you want to take on. What goal you want to work on over the coming weeks. We need to clean as many as you can? Here’s how you clean those incompletions.
FORGIVE yourself meaning, it’s OK to move forward with a new commitment to do the best you can to complete the goal. You’re going to watch, if and when you hit the wall over the coming weeks. Let them go! Let it go!